Help From a Family Counselor
As a well-known family counselor in Napa, CA, Mark Caro, PhD has seen many difficult family situations. But what he has coped with has helped him create a system of marriage problem solutions, which he has successfully applied to help many couples to keep their marriage healthy. Today, he will introduce a few of his tactics that can help you suppress the aggression towards your partner and let you control the situation when you expect an argument.
- Tell your partner you need to be quiet for a few minutes.
- Focus on your breath – allow yourself enough time to feel your anger and understand how the conversation can hurt you.
- Have a comparison for yourself and your partner – Be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and any impulsive urges to lash out.
- Accept your shortcomings – Research suggests acknowledging and accepting your own imperfections is the first step towards a balanced relationship. Although family life is not easy, understanding that your partner is not like you will make you love each other despite your differences.
- Focus on what you need from the other person and think whether that need is reasonable and not just an aggressive whim.
- Learn to collaborate and practice compassion daily – To apply these new skills before an argument escalates, your brain must create neural pathways.
If these don’t help visit a family counselor, after calling to reserve an appointment at (707) 252-1632. He will surely help you reconsider the possibility to give your partner another chance to prove to you how much he or she still loves you, despite all the fights. You owe this to yourself, especially if you have children who depend on you and would like to have a loving family.